Tuesday, March 10, 2009
The Baby Shower...
I always told him that I wanted a Baby Shower so we talked about and we decided that I would have one. We started to think about where we would plan to have it at. All of a sudden he tells me that it’s too much money and we could save that money we were going spend on the shower on stuff for the baby. He ended up throwing me a surprise baby shower. That wasn’t really a surprise because you know black folks snooping around and I found the invitations. But I played like I didn’t know anything The Baby Shower was on June 14, 2003. Now if I didn’t find the invitations to the Baby Shower I would have known something was up when one of my good friends was flying into JFK airport and 9 or 10pm and he was going to pick her up. She spent the whole Saturday with me and then she brought me to the Shower. I was kind of hard to act like I was surprised but I did the best that I could. The baby shower turned out nice, it rained but we were under something so it was fine. WE danced we ate and opened the gifts and took lots of pictures. It was in the city in Washington Heights right on the water.
Sunday, March 8, 2009
end of 02 begining of 03...
We were still together when I found out I was pregnant, so I said to him that we should move together. At this time he was telling me that his dad had another house that we could move to in Jersey City, he also told me that we had to pay to live there, but at the same time he was telling me that he was making a profit off the house. I told him ok if we have to pay your dad then how about the money you make off the house you give it to him for the apt that we will be staying in. He just kept making it seem like he couldnt do that and that we had to pay his dad rent. Which was 300.00 I told him ok 300.00 is fine.
I moved in with him on my 23rd birthday but when first moved to NJ I moved to his mother and father's house with his Mom, Dad, Sister and Brother. At this time he shared a room with his brother, but the room was separated with a entertainment center. He is 4 years older than me and I was 23 when I moved in so that made him 27 years old.
My grandmother told me to not to move in with him she told me to stay right in the Bronx. I told her that I wanted my baby to have his Mom and Dad and to be raised like a family she told me that I was not married and that I should just stay there and how he could still be in the baby’s life without me moving into NJ.
I moved in with him on my 23rd birthday, but I was under the impression that we were moving into the other house that his family had. Nope! Moved right in with his family sleeping in the same room as him and his brother. I kept asking him when we were moving to the other apt. We finally moved into the other apartment in the end of May. Now we were in the apt I thought ok good, I kept asking him when we were going to buy furniture you know like a bed a living room set and a dining set. We were sleeping on a makeshift King size bed it consisted of two twin beds put together and yes that was the bed that we took from his old room. We had two beach chairs in the living room. Guess that was our living set. We went to Sleepy’s finally one day and put money down on the bed. He was in the store looking ant the most expensive beds, don’t know why because I knew that he knew he was never even going to buy a bed. We ended up losing our deposit because he never went back to get the bed.
Now he was the kind of guy that wanted to show off whatever he had. So almost every night he had his friends over and they would drink and play video games till like 3 or 4 in the morning.
I moved in with him on my 23rd birthday but when first moved to NJ I moved to his mother and father's house with his Mom, Dad, Sister and Brother. At this time he shared a room with his brother, but the room was separated with a entertainment center. He is 4 years older than me and I was 23 when I moved in so that made him 27 years old.
My grandmother told me to not to move in with him she told me to stay right in the Bronx. I told her that I wanted my baby to have his Mom and Dad and to be raised like a family she told me that I was not married and that I should just stay there and how he could still be in the baby’s life without me moving into NJ.
I moved in with him on my 23rd birthday, but I was under the impression that we were moving into the other house that his family had. Nope! Moved right in with his family sleeping in the same room as him and his brother. I kept asking him when we were moving to the other apt. We finally moved into the other apartment in the end of May. Now we were in the apt I thought ok good, I kept asking him when we were going to buy furniture you know like a bed a living room set and a dining set. We were sleeping on a makeshift King size bed it consisted of two twin beds put together and yes that was the bed that we took from his old room. We had two beach chairs in the living room. Guess that was our living set. We went to Sleepy’s finally one day and put money down on the bed. He was in the store looking ant the most expensive beds, don’t know why because I knew that he knew he was never even going to buy a bed. We ended up losing our deposit because he never went back to get the bed.
Now he was the kind of guy that wanted to show off whatever he had. So almost every night he had his friends over and they would drink and play video games till like 3 or 4 in the morning.
Monday, March 2, 2009
2002
We were still in our honey more stages and thing were going so good that for Valentines Day of 02. He decided to surprise me and put a tattoo of my name on his arm. We went to eat at Shark Bar and all I kept wondering was why he had on a Thermal shirt at the restaurant and especially because it was Valentines Day. Well he bought me a Diesel hat and some chocolate and we went out to eat and when we got back to my house we were in my room and he asked me if I loved him and I said yes and he said I love u too and he took his shirt off and there was my name tattooed on his arm. I was like awww that’s sweet and I told him now I know why u had on the thermal shirt. I was so hyped that I took him upstairs and showed it to everyone. I said this guy really loves me.
Later on that year we went away on a 7 day cruise. All I did was sleep the whole time on the cruise. As soon as we made it back to NY. My stomach was killing me I had cramps like crazy. I thought it was because I ate those blue potato chips on the plane.. I went to work the next day and my coworkers were talking about Oreo cookies and I love Oreo cookies, but just thinking about it made me want to vomit. So my coworker asks me if I like Oreo’s and I said I love Oreo’s and the first thing she said was that I was pregnant. The first thing I said was no the hell I’m not and she asked me when I like had my cycle and it was a while but my cycle was always off I would go months without it so I didn’t think nothing. She told me that I needed to go and but a pregnancy test and I told her I’m not wasting 20 dollars. She said ok. Well on my way home I went to the pharmacy and picked up a pregnancy test that was 6 dollars for two of them. I got home and I took the test and it came out positive. Now the funny thing is that I just knew I wasn’t pregnant and I was going to play a joke on him and tell him I was but I guess the joke was on me. Well I called him up and told him I was pregnant. I didn’t know what response to expect from him, but I tell u he wasn’t jumping up for joy and I wasn’t either. I really didn’t think I was pregnant.
I went to work the next day and my coworker asked me did I take the test and I told her yes and it came out positive. She said I told you. I told her that I bought I cheap test and she said to me don’t u think it would have came out negative if anything. Well I went to the store and bought and EPT pregnancy test, went into the bathroom at work; took the test. It was positive; one of my coworkers was so happy for me and screaming congratulations.
Later on that year we went away on a 7 day cruise. All I did was sleep the whole time on the cruise. As soon as we made it back to NY. My stomach was killing me I had cramps like crazy. I thought it was because I ate those blue potato chips on the plane.. I went to work the next day and my coworkers were talking about Oreo cookies and I love Oreo cookies, but just thinking about it made me want to vomit. So my coworker asks me if I like Oreo’s and I said I love Oreo’s and the first thing she said was that I was pregnant. The first thing I said was no the hell I’m not and she asked me when I like had my cycle and it was a while but my cycle was always off I would go months without it so I didn’t think nothing. She told me that I needed to go and but a pregnancy test and I told her I’m not wasting 20 dollars. She said ok. Well on my way home I went to the pharmacy and picked up a pregnancy test that was 6 dollars for two of them. I got home and I took the test and it came out positive. Now the funny thing is that I just knew I wasn’t pregnant and I was going to play a joke on him and tell him I was but I guess the joke was on me. Well I called him up and told him I was pregnant. I didn’t know what response to expect from him, but I tell u he wasn’t jumping up for joy and I wasn’t either. I really didn’t think I was pregnant.
I went to work the next day and my coworker asked me did I take the test and I told her yes and it came out positive. She said I told you. I told her that I bought I cheap test and she said to me don’t u think it would have came out negative if anything. Well I went to the store and bought and EPT pregnancy test, went into the bathroom at work; took the test. It was positive; one of my coworkers was so happy for me and screaming congratulations.
2001
Through the mist of all that I thought the relationship was going well and I fell in love with him we seen each other more and more and I started going to all the family functions and he would always make sure that I was ok and not feeling left out. He would come over and spent the weekends with me at my house. I mean even my grandmother said he was a nice guy. I actually ended up moving in with my grandmother and she knew that he lived in NJ so she would tell me to buy a bigger bed so that he wouldn’t have to drive all the way back to NJ. So he would even stay the weekends at my grandmother’s house. We were really close and in “LOVE”.
In the spring of 01 I started working for JPMorgan Chase. This is when I went out and bought a XO chain and put his name on it. I would go to work and all my coworker would laugh at me and say I was so in love and that I had it “BAD” they would sing Usher’s song. They would also take turns wearing the chain. But they were right I was in Love.Our second year anniversary turned out better than the first he came to see me and he gave me my gifts and we went out to eat. The way he gave me my gift was sweet. Well I already told u about the name chain well it was yellow gold and it popped and I was looking for it. He actually took it with out me knowing and fixed it and dipped it inplatinum for me the was the first gift that he passed to me, then he gave me a bag filled with candy and inside the bag was a white gold XO bracelet I was like awww all I need is a ring and he pulled the white gold ring out of his pocket. I thought so sweet. I started to tear.
In the spring of 01 I started working for JPMorgan Chase. This is when I went out and bought a XO chain and put his name on it. I would go to work and all my coworker would laugh at me and say I was so in love and that I had it “BAD” they would sing Usher’s song. They would also take turns wearing the chain. But they were right I was in Love.Our second year anniversary turned out better than the first he came to see me and he gave me my gifts and we went out to eat. The way he gave me my gift was sweet. Well I already told u about the name chain well it was yellow gold and it popped and I was looking for it. He actually took it with out me knowing and fixed it and dipped it inplatinum for me the was the first gift that he passed to me, then he gave me a bag filled with candy and inside the bag was a white gold XO bracelet I was like awww all I need is a ring and he pulled the white gold ring out of his pocket. I thought so sweet. I started to tear.
Friday, February 27, 2009
2000
Things were going good by the beginning of 2000 he decided that he would take me away for a weekend for my birthday and he took me to some hotel in Jersey not sure what part of Jersey we were in. He came that Friday night and picked me up from the Bronx and we drove to the place. We had a good time that weekend and Sunday morning we got up and he drove me home because he had to do something for his mother. Well after that weekend you could say we got really serious. I thought he was really sweet.
On our First year anniversary I should have known that he had a bad temper. We had plans to meet up go eat and go and see a Yankee game but I got home a little later than I expected. I called him to let him know and he said it was ok. I guess it was because I was with a friend. I called him and he came and picked me and my friend from the train station he dropped her off and he was cool while she was in the car, as soon as she got out and we got to my building it was a different story. He started yelling and screaming and talking about he threw my gift off the bridge into the water and how he was going to drive his truck into the wall and how he didn’t care blah blah blah. I was in “LOVE” and I just couldn’t understand how he could just flip out like that. He ended up leaving and all I could do was sit on the curve and cry until my sister came down stairs and got me. Still to this day I think back and say I should have left him then.
Later on that year we went on a trip to Disney World, I guess we had an ok time but, that’s where I noticed that he was abnormally cheap. We were in one of the parks forgot which one it was but you can buy a big ass Turkey leg and I wanted one and he was like no why do u want to buy that. It was another day that I wore the wrong shoes to the theme park and my feet was killing me and I wanted to buy some grinch yes I said the grinch slippers and he say why waste money on those slippers and I walked around the park with my feet killing me so bad that I ended up taking off my shoes and walking bare foot in the park. I feel that when you go away you should have a good time and live in the moment well lets just say we didn’t. I guess I just always pictured it different, that was the first time that I went away with a guy.
That’s about the same time I met his family. He invited me over to his house one weekend in the summer. He was still living at home with his parents, but at this time he was telling me that he was paying rent to stay there but I know now that they would never take any money from him. He also met my family. I would go over to his family’s house for Christmas, Thanksgiving or whenever they were celebrating something. Everything was going great. I started going over to his house more often and we would hang out over there and he would take me back to the Bronx. I mean I used to work at Mickey D’s overnight shift and he would come and wait for me to get off of work…he would sit in the parking lot till I got off at 6am. I left Mickey D’s in early November due the fact that the owner sold the restaurant and I didn’t want to stay. I got a job working part time in UPS. I worked in the factory in Queens so there were a lot of guys that worked there and one day this guy tried to talk to me. I told the guy I had a man and that was that. Now when I got home later that night I told him about the guy and he was like I don’t want u working there anymore. I will give u money every week. I thought about it and said okay and I quit the next day back then I guess I thought like wow my man wants to take care of me. But really he just wanted control.
On our First year anniversary I should have known that he had a bad temper. We had plans to meet up go eat and go and see a Yankee game but I got home a little later than I expected. I called him to let him know and he said it was ok. I guess it was because I was with a friend. I called him and he came and picked me and my friend from the train station he dropped her off and he was cool while she was in the car, as soon as she got out and we got to my building it was a different story. He started yelling and screaming and talking about he threw my gift off the bridge into the water and how he was going to drive his truck into the wall and how he didn’t care blah blah blah. I was in “LOVE” and I just couldn’t understand how he could just flip out like that. He ended up leaving and all I could do was sit on the curve and cry until my sister came down stairs and got me. Still to this day I think back and say I should have left him then.
Later on that year we went on a trip to Disney World, I guess we had an ok time but, that’s where I noticed that he was abnormally cheap. We were in one of the parks forgot which one it was but you can buy a big ass Turkey leg and I wanted one and he was like no why do u want to buy that. It was another day that I wore the wrong shoes to the theme park and my feet was killing me and I wanted to buy some grinch yes I said the grinch slippers and he say why waste money on those slippers and I walked around the park with my feet killing me so bad that I ended up taking off my shoes and walking bare foot in the park. I feel that when you go away you should have a good time and live in the moment well lets just say we didn’t. I guess I just always pictured it different, that was the first time that I went away with a guy.
That’s about the same time I met his family. He invited me over to his house one weekend in the summer. He was still living at home with his parents, but at this time he was telling me that he was paying rent to stay there but I know now that they would never take any money from him. He also met my family. I would go over to his family’s house for Christmas, Thanksgiving or whenever they were celebrating something. Everything was going great. I started going over to his house more often and we would hang out over there and he would take me back to the Bronx. I mean I used to work at Mickey D’s overnight shift and he would come and wait for me to get off of work…he would sit in the parking lot till I got off at 6am. I left Mickey D’s in early November due the fact that the owner sold the restaurant and I didn’t want to stay. I got a job working part time in UPS. I worked in the factory in Queens so there were a lot of guys that worked there and one day this guy tried to talk to me. I told the guy I had a man and that was that. Now when I got home later that night I told him about the guy and he was like I don’t want u working there anymore. I will give u money every week. I thought about it and said okay and I quit the next day back then I guess I thought like wow my man wants to take care of me. But really he just wanted control.
Monday, February 23, 2009
The Beginning
He was such a nice sweet guy when we started dating. I worked at Mc Donald’s as a Manager when we first met and he worked for a financial company. He worked and after he would drive to the Bronx pick me up and we would go out. He never let me pay for anything. I thought wow ok! I mean he was the kind of guy that would wait for u to get your food and then he would eat…he would open the car door for you and all. I would meet him down in the City on the weekends and he would always have a bouquet of Roses for me. I was 19 I admit I was young so I thought OMG this guy is a sweetheart. By the end of the year we were a couple things were going good. I mean we hadn’t even done anything kissed and hugged that was all.
In the beginning of our relationship I met most of his friends; mostly couples. But what I noticed was he didn’t want me to get to close to any of them. We would go over to their house and I would just be there. When I would first meet them he was the type of person that would talk of them so highly she so mature and so smart. Then once we got better acquainted with each other it was a different story. For instance if he was going by his friends house he would say something like she doesn’t want to be bothered or he would just talk down about them saying why u want to hang out with her your smarter than her or he would just say anything to degrade her. Even with his male friends OMG if I so much laughed at a joke that they were telling then he would be pissed off and say don’t laugh at him. I mean what the heck was I a child maybe he thought I was. I now know why he didn’t want me to get close to any of his friends.
In the beginning of our relationship I met most of his friends; mostly couples. But what I noticed was he didn’t want me to get to close to any of them. We would go over to their house and I would just be there. When I would first meet them he was the type of person that would talk of them so highly she so mature and so smart. Then once we got better acquainted with each other it was a different story. For instance if he was going by his friends house he would say something like she doesn’t want to be bothered or he would just talk down about them saying why u want to hang out with her your smarter than her or he would just say anything to degrade her. Even with his male friends OMG if I so much laughed at a joke that they were telling then he would be pissed off and say don’t laugh at him. I mean what the heck was I a child maybe he thought I was. I now know why he didn’t want me to get close to any of his friends.
It all started...
back in the summer of 99. We met at Bryant Park in the city one late night after the club. When I first met him I didn't even like him, But he seemed cool so we spoke on the phone and then we went out a couple of times. He seemed like a nice guy. I was 19 and he was 23 at the time. I lived in the Bronx and he lived in Jersey City.
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